What do I do?
I’ve been around plenty drunk characters in my life. All of them have nuances that stand out in my head. Some people become confident, sad, quiet, aggressive, etc. As a kid I never differentiated people being sober vs drunk. All of them were just people to me. Like everyone else’s default setting, I am self-referential and know that when I’m drunk, I’m running from something or using the alcohol to run towards it. I want answers. We want answers. I don’t get drink anymore. Not that it was ever a problem because I only did it a few times, but I don’t want to have to abuse a substance to accept things. Accept life. When I would drink, I would become extremely confident and talkative. A lot of my experiences from seeing people drunk come from when I was really young. Now that I’m older I see right through it. I’m not saying I can read everyone and figure out what is wrong, but I can make inferences and come to a conclusion about what might be going on with them. Alcohol feels like therapy without solutions. The numb feeling fades away and you want to do it all over again. I get it. Any good relationship is a result of good communication. A friend, family member, or love interest. Don’t let them get lost in the numbing feeling. Communicate. Tell them you were scared when they started to get aggressive. Tell them that they should cry sober. Everyone is carrying some sort of baggage, don’t convince yourself that alcohol is helping you unpack. I promise it’s only adding more weight.